I approach my parents leaving for 5days to celebrate their 25th anniversary on a cruise to the Caribbeans as a chance to practice being a mom and homemaker (I like this word better than "stay at home mom" because that phrase implies that moms are not suppose to stay at home or something.)
Now a random list of my thoughts during the whole experience:
- getting children actively involved in their schoolwork and studies is so meaningful, but takes a lot of effort, patience and love.
- Cooking for a well-balanced meal takes intentional mental planning that goes in to shopping, picking out the recipe you want to use, substituting where applicable
- cooking/baking a dish that you consider a success is a real blessing, being able to share that dish or a meal with people you love is even a bigger blessing
- i still love to wash the dishes no matter how many times i have to do it in a day
- you can choose to simply just hear a child when they are speaking to you or be conscious that you are interacting with a completely individual heartbeat and choose to actively listen to worries, problems, joys, confusion, misunderstandings
- i know i will make it my mission to help my siblings not to fall in the pits i have fallen in to, teach them to be cautious not to trip on the rocks i tripped on. I made the mistakes and now I can help them not make those same ones in their life.
- being a kids is so much fun, and since every adult has been a kid, you just have to release the inner kid in you!!!
- stuffed animals are good for snuggling with, building towers with, bowling in to fellow stuffed animals, using as a pillow, giving kisses to others with, an instrument to use as a mediator when you have a argument (Eeyore is really good)
- it is easy to get a "mom-brain," when your mind is consistently buzzing with: "drop of Jessica by 7pm for swimming--make sure she has a snack b/c it's a 2 hour practice this week--, then I have to make sure I pick up Timmy before this time, so that we can go shopping for dinner ingredients--did Timmy finish his Chinese HW completely? need to ask him that--, make sure you leave a time cushion because it's raining today--why are my tires not gripping as well to the road? should get that checked out--, unless Jessica doesn't want to go to this event that she was invited to.....etc etc etc."
- it takes determined focus and wild multi-tasking skills!
- kids want to know they are contributing to something awesome, therefore, teach them that what they are doing is contributing even though it may seem small, without them it would be impossible to get done, they are so valued and significant :)
- many many more things....
*but the most important principle that I have learned is to love, forgive and move on so you can love some more.
...So there is no time wasted in unforgiveness and emotional/relational separation.
...So there is more time to focus on why we are family.
...So there is stressed importance on reviving and enjoying the relationship.
...So there is conversation about deeper feelings of the heart and soul, which in turn develops your relationship more.
...So there is openness and honesty encouraged at all aspects of arguments and disciplines.
...So there is understanding between two separate heartbeats so that they may learn how to beat as one heart serving the same purpose in live--to love. :)
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